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Womens Problems 5

Months Without Sex

It has been nine months since me and my boyfriend have had sex. I don't understand why because we used to have sex all the time, but at the moment he doesn't seem interested. I have tried to discuss this with him but when I do he pretends that everything is ok. This is making my feel really dejected and crushed - it really is a problem. What should I do? Kate

Your relationship may be at stake here so you really need to face this head on. You both need to discuss this because you really need answers. You may be scared of the reason he has gone off sex, but you need to get it out in the open. The key is to gauge whether it is just a habit you have got into or something more specific. There are many things that cause a lack in sex drive and many are not related to you, so be aware that it may not be because he doesn't fancy you anymore. So don't automatically go on the defensive the reasons could be stress related etc. If you find a specific problem then you need to seek outside help.

I Want a Baby so Badly!

I have been together with my girlfriend for about three years and we really love each other. I have wanted a baby for quite some time. Recently me and my girlfriend had unprotected sex and because she was on the pill we didn't get the morning after pill. Since the event she has missed a period and she is taking a pregnancy test tomorrow. However, ever since she missed her period all I can think of is how much I want to be a father. But I know that she does not want a baby right now. How can I convince her to have the baby if she is pregnant - help, I really want this baby! James

Firstly you can not convince someone to have a baby, they either want to or they don't, and I am afraid even if you discuss this with your girlfriend and explain that you would really want the baby (if there is one!), she has to want the same thing. Having a baby takes two people and she would be the one carrying the baby, so you are stuck if she doesn't want the baby. You also need to bear in mind that the test could be negative and not to get to involved until you know the outcome. If you pressure her about keeping the baby and it turns out there isn't one you could risk the relationship - do you really want this? You have only been together for 3 years there is still plenty of time for baby's. If you wait for when you are both ready, I promise it will be the most amazing experience when it happens.

Should I Swing to Save my Marriage?

I have a friend that swings and she says that it has breathed a new life into her marriage. What do you think, would it help my marriage? Samantha

If you really want to know what I think then I will tell you. Usually it finishes off a dying relationship. Swinging can be used as a way to fix a stagnant sex life. A long term solution it is not, because when it is just the two of you in bed it will go back to being stagnant again. The idea of swinging can be very appealing but it is a dangerous way to fix a broken marriage of sex life. The other point you need to address is that you may find it really devastating watching your partner be very passionate with another person, especially if they don't act the same with you.

Do You Need Love to Have Good Sex?

I sometimes wonder if I really love my boyfriend, but it is hard to tell as our sex life is fantastic. How important is love to good sex? Tracy

Just because you love someone doesn't mean you will have great sex, you can have amazing sex with someone you don't love or even like. Great sex needs chemistry. Loving someone you need to connect on a deeper level. The answer to your question is no you don't have to love someone to have great orgasms. However, this would pale in comparison to the orgasms you can have when your heart and your private parts are involved!