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Hi I need some advice regarding an issue that has become a problem in my life. I have been together with my current boyfriend about 6 months and he's great, except for he is very inexperienced in bed. I know that sex is not everything but after this long it is starting to bother me in certain ways. He always wants me to guide him in the right direction and when we are in bed I feel like a teacher and not a lover. I have to take everything slow and step by step. The main problem apart from feeling like his teacher, is that I have started to fantasise about a man that knows exactly what to do and which buttons to push. I truly love my boyfriend but can help feeling like there is something wrong or missing? I am confused please help, I really don't know wether to finish him or not?, thank you Lyn.

Before you take any drastic measures please think carefully! Your main problems are his inexperience and your fantasies. Have a good think about the other areas of the relationship and how they are.If the answer is bad then maybe you should think about what you are doing with this person, but if the answer is that they are great then I need to give you a few things to think about. Firstly, do you really think that there are many men out there that know a woman inside out. Because every woman is different, and gets pleasure from different things, I doubt this is true. Secondly, there are so many women out there that complain about men who just bang away at them and take no notice of what they want. You really should realise how lucky you are with your current boyfriend, he wants to learn you body and what pleases you and that's brilliant! My last point is that it will get much better with time, soon he will know what you want because you have told him so much, and the sex will be out of this world!

Problem with In-Growing Hairs

Hi, I seem to get lots of in-growing hairs that can be very painful. I have been told not to wax or shave but even when I use hair removal cream I still get them. Is there any way of lessening or totally getting rid of them? Please help because I can get so much pain from them!

I have heard of a very simple solution that you could try. After waxing, using hair removal cream or shaving use tea tree cream, this should help and lessen the in-growing hairs. Tea tree products can be bought from many different places, chemists and places like Boots, Superdrug etc, also because tee tree is a natural antiseptic it has many other uses.

Cannabis Mood Swings?

Hello, I hope you can hep me with this problem because it starting to get really bad. I have been in a relationship now for about 3 years, we have been through our ups and downs but on the whole everything has been great. However, over the last few months my partner has started to change dramatically. He smokes cannabis every night and it has started to make him have violent mood swings and just a general bad temper. He has always smoked cannabis but it has only been recently that there has been a change. I have tried to think if there is anything else that could be causing it but I have no other ideas. I love him so much and it breaks my heart to think that we may split up, what shall I do? Dorothy

Well Dorothy there is no simple answer to this one I am afraid. My first piece of advice would be to sit down with him and try to explain about the way he is behaving, and how it is making you feel. You need to tell him how much you love him and that you don't want to break up. Hopefully this will make him realise that you are only trying to help. Then suggest to him to stop smoking cannabis for about a month to see if his behaviour changes. tell him its not that you want him to stop smoking cannabis forever, but just want to eliminate it from the possible causes of his bad behaviour. if after a month he starts to act differently then you know what was causing it. if not then you need to seek advice.

It may be the case that he wont stop smoking cannabis for a while, and that he gets very hostile towards you, this is not good and you need to think about your own safety. Always remember to put yourself first, you can only do so much to help a person if they won't help themselves. You probably will need to seek professional advice if it gets worse, so don't be afraid to do this! Good luck and I wish you and your partner well.